1. See it a new way.
2. Be full of yourself. (Oprah Winfrey)
3. Learn from the people around you. (Mark Zuckerberg)
4. Give credit where credit is due.
5. Ask, “Does this diminish me or enlarge me?” (James Hollis)
6. Make every step go in that direction. (Unknown)
7. Be honest to yourself and others about what you really want.
8. Don’t accept crap. (modified Steve Jobs)
9. “Failure is your first step toward success.” (Arianna Huffington’s mom)
10. Never stop learning.
“See it a new way” tops the list because we all get stuck. “If we always do what we’ve always done, we’ll always get what we always got.” I don’t know who said that, but it’s true. The best ideas come when you are willing to let go of old ideas, get out of your own way and see the world through a different lens.
Oprah said that you are no good to anyone if you don’t take care of yourself first. No one is going to love you, if you don’t love yourself. No one is going to take care of you, if you don’t think you’re worthy of self-care.
“Learn from the people around you,” Mark Zuckerberg said. Surround yourself with smart, creative people. Don’t view them as the competition. View them as teachers. True leaders recognize talent and good ideas when they see it and give credit where credit is due.
James Hollis, my favorite Jungian analyst, challenges us to take the lids off our lives by always asking, “Does this diminish me or enlarge me?” You know when you’re living small and when you’re stepping into something big. Choose big.
Life can be a series of sidetracks. But if you truly know what you want, stay focused and make every step go in that direction. Be honest with yourself about what you want. Not what your spouse wants, or your kids, or your parents. What's the sense in being successful at someone else’s dream?
Steve Jobs said, “Don’t make crap.” I say, “Don’t accept crap.” Not from yourself or anyone else. Number 9 may seem like a contradiction. But if you never failed, that means you’ve never tried. Your first few attempts may be crap. Simply trash them and start again.
Finally, never stop learning. It makes life – and you – more interesting.